Making My Own Decisions Is Important to Me

By Sofia Causa

My name is Sofia Causa, and I am 21 years old and I am from Miami, Florida. I have a passion for music; I play violin and piano. I have been playing violin for 12 years and I was in an orchestra during middle, high school, and college until the pandemic hit. I have been playing piano for 15 years.

I have a disability in which I have low vision and I only can see centrally from my left eye. I have had that disability since birth. My disability not only has to do with my vision, but also in my way of perceiving and making decisions. I use a system called Supported Decision-Making (SDM). How I define Supported Decision-Making is when you have family or friends who help you decide. They can give you perspective on the pros and cons, but the idea is still to ultimately make the decision on your own.

Last summer, I made an SDM declaration. This is a statement saying the areas I want support with, and how I want to be supported. I gave a copy to my mom and will share it with other people if I want to.

I have used Supported Decision-Making to make big, important choices and/or smaller trivial ones. Some examples in which I used Supported Decision-Making was when I was trying to decide what pathway I was going to take after high school. I was going to choose which residential program I wanted to attend that was for students with visual impairments. I was choosing between a 4-week program in Daytona, Florida or a 9-month program in Boston, Massachusetts. Before I made the decision, I sat down with my mom and stepdad to talk about the pros and cons of each one. I finally decided to attend the 9-month program in Boston. This program took place at the Perkins School for the Blind, and it was to teach students what life is like in college. We took classes through Harvard Extension to know what a college class is like, and there were also teachers there who taught us life skills, like orientation and mobility (navigating in the community) and independent living skills (cooking, cleaning, laundry, etc.). My mom and I talk about small decisions too. For example, if I am going to an event, she helps me decide on what to wear or if I am coordinating it, we discuss what time would be best.

I think it matters very much to me to make my own decisions because it is important to make your own decisions because it is going to serve you for life. When I went to live in that program in Boston, I was learning what it was like to make decisions on my own, because I did not have any of my family there and it was meant to prepare students for independence in college. I had to decide whether I wanted to go to an outing or stay in the dorm to finish homework or anything else.

I think that Supported Decision-Making is better than a guardianship because it is less restrictive than having a guardianship. A Supported Decision-Making statement, or an agreement as many others use them, can be kept flexible, and that is helpful because if one person is not available to help you, you can have a backup. This is why the Supported Decision-Making bill, introduced as Senate Bill 1010 and House Bill 681, is a good idea. It should be passed so that families have flexibility and more options. All people with disabilities are different. The good thing about SDM is that you can adapt it to each person with a disability, so it works for them. I am a good example of that, because even though a lot of people use SDM as an agreement, for me a declaration was better. I want every person with a disability to have choices.

To learn more about Supported Decision-Making, visit the SDM4FL Coalition website.

Comments

I whole heartedly support your choice.  This is the perfect solution for my son Patrick as well.  He is high functioning and on the spectrum.  He is capable of making decisions but his anxiety has a tendency to flare up at the thought of committing to a decision.  We have learned thru years of therapy, together and separately,  that discussions like this have worked wonders for all of us.  My you have success and happiness in the future.  Congratulations on all you have achieved already.

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By Mary Beth NearyRobert on Apr 21, 2021

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